A bunch of my friends are celebrating big anniversaries this week…15 years, 20 years, one couple is even celebrating 25 years. I feel a twinge of jealousy, since I’m back at square one on the anniversary clock. Divorce is the final “Do Not Pass Go, Do Not Collect $200” card in the marriage deck. Do over.
While I’m much happier now than I was in my previous marriage, I’m not a proponent of divorce if it can be avoided. By “avoided” I mean that both people can find happiness and satisfaction in the partnership, not that one partner agrees to be miserable in order to stay married. I can say without equivocation that I put more effort into trying to avoid divorce than nearly anything else in my life…but in the end, our marriage couldn’t be saved.