I set some not quite resolutions for 2016. The New Year is finally here, which is a good thing, because taken as a whole, 2015 wasn’t particularly great. Okay, I did get married to my dream guy and no one suffered any major health crises, all of which I’m thankful for. Without making a giant list of my grievances against 2015, let’s just say I’m ready to move on from the stress and anxiety it brought. Don’t let the door hit you on the ass on the way out, old year!
I’m not really a resolution maker. Every year, I do resolve to stop swearing. Every year, I &!%$# fail right around the time I discover someone ate all the leftover Chinese food. Last week, I had a chance to talk with Rebecca Silence for my radio show (I’ll give you that, 2015 – the radio show was a good thing you did.) She’s a life coach who helps folks reach their goals. You can read all about Rebecca and her coaching business here. She told me she’s not a big believer in resolutions because she feels like any day has the potential to be the beginning of something new and awesome – whether it’s a January 1, 2016 or a random Tuesday. What she does believe in is really putting yourself and what you want out to The Universe in an affirmative way. She even makes a yearly “vision board” where she cuts out pictures as symbols of the things she wants to achieve. It sounds a little “out there,” but Rebecca is a very compelling coach! (You can hear the whole interview here.)
I talked with Rebecca not long after I finished reading “You Are a Badass” by Jen Sincero, another life coach whose philosophy definitely has elements in common with Rebecca: believe in what you want, get out of your own way and be grateful for the things that haven’t come your way yet because they will if you are. I loved that book so much, I bought it for a friend and basically forced her to read it. Turns out, there might be something to all that, because just last week, that friend had an absolutely life-changing opportunity get presented to her at a time when she really needed it.
I believe in the power of positive thought. I’m just much better at being positive and a cheerleader for other people. I will tough love you, I will stand by you through thick and thin and I believe you have it in you to have everything you want.
I just suck at applying those same principles to myself.
Am I the only one that feels that way? I know there are folks out there that are so 100 percent convinced of their greatness, they have no problem being their own best fan. Or maybe they’re just incredible at bluffing. Either way, good for them. As for me, I know what I know, but I tend to obsess over what I don’t know – if that makes any sense. On top of that, I’m a negative self-talker. “Ugh, I’m an idiot” is a phrase I utter at least a dozen times a day.
Both Rebecca and Jen Sincero suggest that we set affirmative, measurable, achievable goal for ourselves. More importantly, when we do, The Universe (or God, or Buddha, or whatever you believe in) will respond.
Alright, Universe – you’re on.
My Not Quite Resolutions for 2016
- I will run 1,000 miles this year.
- My husband and I will work together in broadcasting, beginning this year. (Maybe that will be our podcast, or something bigger and better!)
- I will prioritize my health. At 44, you just can’t close your eyes and hope things will just go away.
- I will take at least an hour every day, without guilt, to do the creative things that inspire me. All of them involve creation.
- I will create a home for my family where they feel loved, safe and cherished. (This is always a priority – but I want the Universe to hear it out loud.)
- I will be my own cheerleader and believe in what I do know and the talents I do possess. No more negative self-talk.
So there are my goals for 2016. They’re not quite resolutions. None of them involve losing weight or skydiving. To be honest, it’s a little scary-embarassing-intimidating putting them out there. Bring it on, 2016!
What are your goals for the New Year…or Tuesday?
(by the way, that link up there to Jen Sincero’s book is an “affiliate link,” so if you happen to buy it, I earn, like 9 cents. I have to tell you that.)